These are also ways you can make others feel important — and make them your friends.
Some people seem to do this naturally. When they talk to you, you feel as if no one else matters; for those moments, you are the most important person in the room. The rest of us, who have a tendency to relate whatever is happening in our own lives, may have to consciously develop this habit.
It will help your interpersonal relationships. Genuine interest in another person develops trust.
It engenders friendship. It makes others feel better about themselves when they are around you. It makes them better people for knowing you.
As you interact with people, think about what would make them feel important. I predict you’ll experience an instant change of attitude. You’ll see that “difficult” person who always seems to be begging for attention in a different light. She doesn’t mean to be irritating; she only wants to feel important.
You’ll listen more intensely when others speak, even if it’s on a topic that’s not usually of interest to you.
You’ll be more attentive to members of your family. More than anyone else, they need to know they’re important to you.
Thanks, Mr. Carnegie. Even after 74 years, your words still ring true.
Do you know someone who is naturally one of those intense listeners, who seems to hang onto every word you say? Or tell me of your reaction when someone who sees you infrequently somehow always remembers your name.