Comments on: The Power of Worry

By: Phyllis

Phyllis — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:46:36 +0000

I probably don’t worry enough…

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 00:04:08 +0000

Thank you, Mitzi. Appreciate it.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 00:03:15 +0000

Be my guest, Phyllis. Thanks for the vote of confidence. Hope they benefit from it as well.

By: Cheryl

Cheryl — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 00:02:09 +0000

You’re right, Yvonne. Whether we mean it what way or not, our children often interpret our over-concern for lack of trust in their judgment. I think I’m actually young enough to remember how that felt. Or maybe it wasn’t that long ago! I still have the tendency to say — or at least think to myself, “Don’t worry. I can handle it!”

And that wise statement, “I know you’ll make the right decision,” not only conveys confidence but responsibility: “This is on your shoulders now, and you will bear the consequences — positive or negative. (Besides that, your decision reflects on the way you were brought up.)”

By: Mitzi Scarborough

Mitzi Scarborough — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 22:32:23 +0000

Good thoughts,Cheryl.

By: pkb

pkb — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 17:25:51 +0000

@Yvonne I try to remember to tell my "students" this, and then I get it confused with when I actually NEED to give them direction! Good points, Yvonne.

By: pkb

pkb — Thu, 10 Sep 2009 17:23:54 +0000

Hi Cheryl,

I enjoyed your article. May I send it to my ladies group of home school moms?

Hope your day is going well.

By: Yvonne

Yvonne — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 19:58:11 +0000

Hmmmmm… seems like I saw part of the pondering of this subject in a certain skype conversation.

One thing in addition: sometimes verbally worrying about others (especially your children) is an attempt to control their behavior, and lays an unnecessary burden on them. Or, as someone once did to me, it tells them you don’t have confidence in their ability to handle the situation. While it may be true, it doesn’t help them make better decisions. Better and more productive would be an expression of confidence in them. [I’m listening to my own admonition here) My sister in law was once very empowered by her dad telling her that he knew she would make the right decision.